A blog about......

Friendship 

(If I can begin it before tearing up) 

When I think friendship I think Winnie the Pooh and Piglet and Christopher Robin

I think of C.S. Lewis' book "The Four Loves" (amazing, btw [and a quick read]- read it if you haven't!), and how he postulates within it that Friendship is the Highest Form of Love. 

I think of Woody and Buzz, 

I think of my 7 year old nephew walking alongside my 2.5 year old nephew by the hand (Why? -I'm not even sure, really; just because he can?); 

I think of LDS scripture, when it states that once we reach a certain degree of faithfulness, God no longer calls us His servants, but rather considers us His friends. 

I think of the instances of friendship in my life and of how Deeply they have touched my life, and continue to touch my life, and I think of all those examples stated previously in conjunction with them, and I find that Truly, Friendship is the basis of So much good that is in life. 


I've often found it interesting in my own life, how different friends seem to fill up different areas and soul-needs, and all work together to bring in a bigger and better and more fulfilled me. There is the friend that you can talk to about Anything, and then there is the friend you Know you can talk to about Nothing; And the friend with whom you need no longer talk about things at all (or perhaps, never needed to from the start); 

If you think about shows which have been successful in portraying the idea of friendship, you realize their success has been in creating characters whose personalities are each very distinct, but yet work together anyway. 

You have Joey and Chandler and Ross and Monica and Phoebe and Rachael.

You have Cory and Topanga and Shawn and Eric 

You have M'Lynn, Shelby, Ousier, Truvy, Claire, and Annell

C.C. and Hillary... 


Just to name a few off the top of my head. 

Each of these examples is a testament to the completing pieces of ourselves we find in those who are not only different from us, but different from each other. 

I venture to say one measure of a man's greatness is made evident within the range of the kaleidoscope of the friends he chooses. 

Without you, I am just me. Linked in friendship with you, however, you have a little bit of me, and I then have a little bit of you, and so we become connected in that soul-way (sole-way as well) of which I was talking about wanting to achieve within my writing; 

I know nothing of physics, but in my own theory, I maintain that certain matter existed and was used to put together the matter of the soul; and that this matter that was used was unique matter, unlike any other matter anywhere else... something of the same- as in all the matter we make things out of here comes from earth, even though we end up after mixing it with unique things such as plastics and textiles, -or more naturally, woods and metals. 

Such is the same with God's creation of our Spirits, we all come from the same type of spiritual matter- but in making unique Spirits we end up with woods and metals and fabrics and plastics, each different from the other. So when we interact with people we sometimes counteract each other because we are more distinctly metal and they are more distinctly plastic, so to speak; 

There are always those people who are plastic and so they hang out with all the others who are plastic, too, but then what is the product that results? Simply more of the same- no growth or evolution or Creation of anything Greater.

What I am talking about- is the "FRIENDS" type of friends- who see that they can each be themselves- their own element, while Still at the same time having each of their unique aspects work together to create something like... (**looks around**) a smart phone, for instance- which could never have been created with merely that one thing, or even all the same type of elements.

Now, sometimes you meet that same-exact type as you, and you click instanteously, because you needed more 'you'ness in your life; Sometimes, we get so alone in our uniqueness that we need that same uniqueness in which we feel alone in, brought into us from outside of us. 

Then, there is the same-as-you in Just the right ways, and the different than you in Just the right ways person that kinda takes you by surprise and is a little bit difficult for you to comprehend. You have within your mind this compendium of sorts- You just fit together Too perfectly and interlockingly. You can comprehend and appreciate their similarities (perfectly, in fact), but what you Cannot comprehend is how it is those specific similarities can co-exist with those specific differences;-

This is the kind of friendship that is more than just enriching you each separately into a smart phone- this is the kind of friendship that blends you up together mixing you up into a smoothie instead. And almost without thinking about it, (but at the same time doing so completely purposely) you each drink it in, and you absorb into you all the good nurtients from it you can, and very seamlessly and just as naturally as your body does with its waste do away with the bad. You then come to find that the effect this concoction has upon you is So beneficial, in fact, that you simply must continue drinking it. This is the kind of friendship which very naturally leads into a soul-enriching, and sometimes, even, a soul-wrenching, experience. 

This is the kind of friendship which is the basis of- or perhaps the center of- or maybe even, Love itself. 

And when you Even so much as touch on this accidental and yet also freely and independently chosen type of connection with another it encompasses the renderings of All kinds- Nay,- of Every Kind, of Awe;